what is self esteem
Low Self Esteem can be cured! Here is how
self esteem cannot survive if you follow a few simple steps. Believe me,
have done it and you can too.
More self esteem means that you can begin living a life filled with more happiness
and meaning. You'll begin to feel more confident inside as you become
happier with who you are.
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Poor self esteem can be unlearnt so take heart there
Low Self Esteem - Here's what
- Low self esteem feeds on
negative thoughts so Don't indulge in self
criticism. Why are you waging war
against yourself? There are so many other people out there that can
bring you down if you listen to them so why add to the negativity? Read self talk and silence your inner judge.
- You can choose to please
yourself It is good to care
about other's feelings but aren't your needs just as important? Don't
neglect yourself! It is a fact that the most precious gift you have is
your health and you need to look after yourself so that you will have
the energy and strength to give your best to the world and to helping
others. This will give you a wonderful sense of contribution in the
world and will help you to value what you do and who you are.
- Don't try to be like
someone else. This leads to lack of
self worth and
confidence. You are unique and you cannot be someone else. Strive to
improve but don't criticise yourself for not being as successful, beautiful,
slim or as popular as someone else. It is not easy to live life
according to your own standards and values but this is important if you
are to fully respect yourself. Pretending to be something you are not is
cheating yourself and the feelings that will result inside you will be
- Take life and yourself less seriously.
Failure just means you are not successful YET. Everybody fails
before succeeding, don't look on it as failure but as a means to
learning. Perhaps you just need a change of direction. Problems make
you stronger if you strive to overcome them. If you can laugh at your
situation when you dont quite get it right and realise that you just
need to make some adjustments and try again then you will be so much
less stressed and negative in life. Expect success but understand that
it requires trial and error and hard work to make something truly
worthwhile become reality. This will take the pressure of you as you
will not be upset if instant success eludes you.
- Self worth, confidence and assuredness increase when you Focus on your needs and desires. You
deserve to live life as you want. Wanting
self esteem is not selfish as long as what you
want doesn't hurt others or prevent them from living life on their
terms. Remember that if you are happy you can be a better friend to
others and when you are frustrated anger and resentment can build up
quickly inside you. If you are, at least, striving for what you want and
creating goals then you'll feel much more positive that you are taking
steps towards a better future.
- Focus on your successes. Lack of confidence feeds on your feelings of failure
and inadequacy. Remember the truly successful things you have done in
your life. Reward yourself when you do succeed.
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- Use positive affirmations and quotes.
Read them when you are feeling negative and need
inspiration. A lift in your mood may be enough to motivate you to take
action. Positive and inspirational words feed your mind and make you
stronger and by using them often you can change your attitude to help
you achieve what you want. Click here for a list of
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- Use visualisation to help you achieve
your dreams and increase your self esteem!Actually seeing yourself
being successfully and enjoying the results of the success you want is
amazingly motivating and can help to make it a reality because you use
all your inner emotions to become the person you want to be. Often the
biggest obstacle between you where you are now and where you want to be
is how you see yourself. If you cannot see yourself succeeding or if you
cannot imagine how it will feel to be doing whatever it is you want then
you probably will never achieve it.
- Try this amazing
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Hypnosis is natural and tremendously successful because it uses the
power of your mind in a positive way. It is quick and fun, try it.
- Focus on your strengths. Use them.
You will succeed if you are true to yourself. No one can stop you if you
use your talents and abilities positively but if you do not know what
your strengths are, how can you improve your life?
- Work at achieving your goals. If
you do this your confidence will increase and you will feel
positive. The old saying, one step at a time is very
important. Steady steps are possible if you make your goals reachable
and break up your bigger goals into smaller steps. Reward yourself for
each smaller victory and be certain that many small steps add up to an
- Your self criticism will die to nothing as you will
know even if you do not succeed you tried all you could. Do
your best at everything you try.
On the other hand, give less than your best will take you
nowhere and will bring you into the depths of low self esteem. If you
need a greater challenge then go for it and again do your best. Look for
a reason to do better in everything you do and stop the common practice
that most people have today of moaning about their job or whatever it is
they do. Look for the positive, it is always there too along with the
negative but why focus on that and make yourself miserable?
- Feed your brain. Read inspiring books - they will really help you. Not just
any books though, read the best. Check out my selection of
self improvement books - you'll really love them!
The above suggestions are steps you can take on the
road to building your confidence and successful in your daily life. If
you start on this road you need to keep at it. Others will sometimes
knock you down so you need to be strong and listen to your heart.
Believing in yourself is all about focusing on your strengths. You must
be honest with yourself and be true to your feelings. Don't pretend to be anything that you're
not and don't listen to others who try to convince you that you are
wrong. Trust your intuition and your feelings to make the right
decisions and decide today which direction you want to go.
I wish you
Recommended Books that will help you - from Amazon.com
#1 Breaking the chain of low self
esteem Marilyn Sorensen
also highly recommended buy the Personal workbook for Breaking the Chain of Self Esteem
#2 Low Self-Esteem Misunderstood & Misdiagnosed by Marilyn J., Ph.D. Sorensen, Marilyn Sorenson Elaine
#3 Warning Signs : A Guidebook for Parents : How to Read the Early
Signals of Low Self-Esteem, Addition, and Hidden Violence in Your
by John Kelly, Brian J.
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