If this is what you do, there are steps you can take to stop worrying about the thoughts of others and build your self esteem and confidence<\/a> again. With many years of writing about self esteem, both online and in print, I’m here to show you how. Keep reading!<\/p>\n\n\n\n According to Leary and Downs<\/a> (1995), the vast majority of research done in this field shows that we have an extremely important need to build and maintain our levels of self esteem. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Worrying too much about what others think is behaviour connected with low self esteem (Farooqi and Intezar, 2009). So, if you notice that this is something that you do, you may be suffering from self esteem issues. Boosting your self esteem and confidence may help to reduce how much you care about what others are thinking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you worry excessively about what others have on their minds and how they might be judging you, it may cause negative thinking and certain problems such as self-consciousness. It is something you need to address if you wish to become more positive in your actions and thoughts and if you want to improve your confidence and social skills.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Another problem associated with excessive worrying about what others think is that it can cause you to become a people pleaser. Many of us do become people pleasers, as this way of behaving does have many positive advantages in life, in terms of career and personal life. However, those who try too hard to please others can become neglectful of the self and may be easily manipulated by others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n One example of how being a people pleaser can have negative effects on all aspects of life, and may even lead to depression or the breakdown of a marriage is given by Jason Whiting, in this faculty publication<\/a> (Brigham Young University, 2016).<\/p>\n\n\n\n In short, worrying about what others think gives others power because you are letting them control how you feel and behave. You need to reclaim your personal power to feel good about yourself once more. This also involves you taking responsibility for the decisions that are in your own interests. This is not selfish, as long as your wishes never hurt anybody else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you want to build your self confidence and your self esteem, you need to stop caring so much what others think and value your own opinion. This means increasing your trust in your own beliefs, opinions and thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Fear of other people’s opinions is also known as FOPO. As Michael Graves<\/a> explains, FOPO can be overcome through a program of self awareness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Note from me:<\/em> You can<\/strong> stop worrying how other people may be thinking because I and many others have done just that. I know it’s possible…so how can you<\/em> change?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ask yourself <\/a>why you care about what other people think, <\/a>and challenge this. – Are you seeking other people’s approval because you have low self esteem or lack self confidence?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Understand that you are only guessing about the thoughts of other people, you may be completely wrong. You cannot know what is truly on their mind. Why are you letting this guessing game affect you so negatively?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Now here’s a great tip for you:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Build your Self Confidence<\/a> – with Hypnosis downloads – quick, easy and guaranteed <\/strong>to help you build your confidence (prepared by experienced psychologists and gets my full recommendation). This self hypnosis audio download will boost your self-confidence, help you trust your own thoughts and care less about what other people are thinking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It is good to be a sensitive person and consider other people’s feelings and thoughts… However, you need to establish a balance between being considerate of others feelings and not worrying about what others think of you. After all, their thoughts towards you are only their opinion. They are not reality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Suffering from low self esteem or a lack of self confidence, you may make decisions according to other’s expectations, rather than according to your own wishes and feelings. When you feel unhappy afterwards, you may blame yourself. Blame can become self hate<\/a>… be careful, you may project this onto others and ask the question: why does everybody hate me?<\/a> This can only make everything worse. You definitely don’t want this!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Here are some of the ways that this may affect your thinking and behaviour:<\/p>\n\n\n\n You may behave how other people expect you to. You may not be true to yourself. You might feel you are denying yourself the right to live your life the way you want to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You could have problems relaxing in challenging social situations because you may worry what others are thinking about you – this will make it likely you will make more mistakes and feel less confident. In this way, you are likely to be unable to cope with criticism<\/a> from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Speaking in public<\/a> can become a nightmare. You may focus on the audience rather than on your performance, feeling the attention as they stare. This can make you nervous and uncomfortable instead of relaxed. All because you may be wondering what they are thinking. This makes for a performance limited by poor self confidence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Learning to be more assertive and say no<\/a> is also important because there are times when you should put your priorities first. If you are worrying about what others think all the time then how can you put your own priorities first? Assertiveness training can really help you, so find out more now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n List the things that you would like to do in your life and make a decision to achieve them. Don’t let others tell you how you should or shouldn’t act. Own and take responsibility for achieving your goals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Instead of assuming what others think, ask them directly. You may be pleasantly surprised.<\/p>\n\n\n\n We do take what others say to us at face value sometimes and may even misunderstand what they are really thinking. In this case, what you are doing is worse than giving the power over your life to others, you are doing this based on wrong information.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So, the idea in this step is to ask someone to explain more about what they think and why. If you have a better understanding of what someone thinks you will then be able to make a decision whether to take their opinion on board or reject it altogether. The power is yours, don’t surrender it to others.<\/p>\n\n\n\nWhy is worrying about what others think a problem?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
How to stop worrying what others think about you<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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1. Be Considerate But Also Trust Yourself<\/strong> <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
2. Make Decisions Based on Your Needs<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
3. Stop Worrying About The Opinions of Others<\/strong> <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
4. Be More Assertive With Your Priorities<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
5. Set Your Own Goals<\/strong> <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
6. Ask Others What They Really Think<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Some More Ideas to Help You Stop Worrying About Others Thoughts<\/h4>\n\n\n\n