{"id":8898,"date":"2020-11-06T14:51:03","date_gmt":"2020-11-06T13:51:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/more-selfesteem.com\/?page_id=8898"},"modified":"2022-02-08T09:08:41","modified_gmt":"2022-02-08T08:08:41","slug":"6-reasons-to-consider-marriage-counseling","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/more-selfesteem.com\/6-reasons-to-consider-marriage-counseling\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Reasons to Consider Marriage Counseling"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
Relationships can be challenging. Most couples face challenges at some point including cheating, problems communicating, financial pressures, compromise, stress and differences in expectations for the relationship or in life (Australian Institute of Prefessional Counsellors<\/a>, 2020). <\/p>\n\n\n\n Confrontations with your spouse can be a big problem, but this is something quite common. There\u2019s no reason you can\u2019t work things out through marriage counselling. Here, in this article, we will look at 7 reasons why you should think about marriage counselling if your relationship as a couple is deteriorating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Marriage counselling is a process where a married couple discuss their feelings and express their thoughts and expectations for their relationship. A counsellor or therapist will encourage the couple to communicate in a way that will improve understanding and compromise on both sides.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Successful marriages are linked with more general happiness and well-being in life (see this article<\/a>). This is true until things start to go wrong. <\/p>\n\n\n\n One thing you may not have considered is the effect your relationship as a couple has on the self-esteem of your children. As Dr Ingrid Schweiger commented in an interview I conducted with her a few years ago:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Sometimes, however, you can’t reach an understanding, and things only get worse from then on. Not being able to talk to your spouse can be infuriating, no matter who’s fault it is. One minute everything is great, and then another, communication seems to be impossible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I want parents to know that self-esteem is an ever-changing dynamic process, which parents can influence dramatically. And the other thing I want to leave people with is the fact that your child’s self-esteem is very much affected by all of the relationships in your child’s life. So the way you get along with your husband or the way you get along with your wife, the way you interact with people at work, the way you interact with your extended family all influence your child’s self-esteem. People don’t always realize that, they often think it’s just between themselves and their child. That is not the case. It involves the entire family system, everybody who is significant in your child’s life.<\/p>Dr. Ingrid Schweiger, Author of Self Esteem for a Lifetime. Interview with Karl Perera, 2009.<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n So, for parents, the effects that your marriage relationship has on your child’s self-esteem is profound and can be a major reason why counseling might be a good idea. We’ll come back to this later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n If you feel like there\u2019s more bad than good stuff happening in your marriage, you should look for another solution. Divorce should never be the first option. If you want to work things out with your spouse, consider going to a marriage counseling professional to try and fix your marriage. There are two main types of marriage counseling, individual one-to-one or group counseling with the couple discussing the issues with the counselor. Either way, this can be an eye-opening and learning experience for both of you. Check out the link for more. <\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\nIs it time to see a marriage counsellor?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n