{"id":7191,"date":"2020-05-13T15:33:45","date_gmt":"2020-05-13T14:33:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/more-selfesteem.com\/?page_id=7191"},"modified":"2022-02-04T10:16:21","modified_gmt":"2022-02-04T09:16:21","slug":"how-to-deal-with-gaslighting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/more-selfesteem.com\/more-self-esteem\/building-self-esteem\/how-to-deal-with-low-self-esteem\/how-to-deal-with-gaslighting\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Deal with Gaslighting and Build Up Your Self Esteem"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
The word comes from a play called “Gas Light” which came out in 1938. In this play a man tries to persuade his wife that she is going crazy by dimming the gas lights (old fashioned lights that didn’t use electricity) and pretending the lights were on full. He was therefore making his wife start to doubt her sanity and mental health. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The interesting thing from the play is that she starts to convince herself that her husband is not deceiving her and begins to accept what he tells her is real. This describes the tactics of gaslighting perfectly (source: Knapp 2019, Albany Law Review<\/a>).<\/p>\n\n\n\n Although the play Gas Light is from 1938, according to Fuchsman<\/a>, (in his article for the Journal of Psychohistory), the term gaslighting started to be used in the 1960s and became popular after Donald Trump started campaigning to become President of the United States.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A gaslighter seeks to manipulate another or others into thinking that their own perceptions of reality are mistaken, and for the gaslightee to believe what the manipulator claims instead.<\/p>Ken Fuchsman. The Journal of Psychohistory, 2019<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n Being gaslighted for an extended period of time can make you feel worthless, unloved, and unwanted. Gaslighting is toxic and manipulative behavior, and sometimes recovery can take some time. Learning how to deal with gaslighting isn\u2019t easy, but it is <\/em>doable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Building up your self-esteem will take some time and effort, but if you stay positive and keep at it, you\u2019ll learn how to deal with gaslighting. You’ll find a completely different person looking back at you in the mirror. Let\u2019s go over some of the steps to take to build up your self-esteem after being a victim of gaslighting<\/a>.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n