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Many self-help books claim affirmations work wonders. However, as I have found working with clients suffering from low self esteem, repeating affirmations is not enough on its own. Some research, such as that done by Wood, Perunovic and Lee <\/a>(2009), even shows that affirmations do not work for everybody, and if not used correctly, can even be harmful to your self esteem. So, can affirmations help you to build self esteem? And if so, how?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Affirmations can help you build self esteem. They help you replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Affirmations should include a helpful belief or positive intention which must be believable. If they are not believable the unconscious may resist them and they will not work.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cTimely affirmations have been shown to improve education, health, and relationship outcomes, with benefits that sometimes persist for months and years.\u201d<\/p>Cohen and Sherman (2014). Source: Annual Review of Psychology<\/a><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Some affirmations appear to be much more helpful than others, so I\u2019ve put together a list of what I believe are the very best 25<\/strong> self esteem affirmations out there. So if you\u2019re looking to boost your self esteem and confidence<\/a>, and are looking for a reliable and easy way to do this, then stay with me, I have the affirmations that will make all the difference in your life!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Can Affirmations Really Help You Build Your Self Esteem?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

According to an article by Critcher and Dunning (2014), affirmations can help you become less defensive and are helpful. This would seem to be particularly useful for those suffering from low self esteem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

By using the power of positive affirmations and by repeating them, you can rewire your brain and alter how you feel and think<\/a> about any situation or challenge. It is always possible to see a positive side to almost any situation if you look for it.<\/strong> In some rather awful life situations, it may seem very difficult to find the optimistic view, but it is there if you can find it. Affirmations help you to look for the good and affirm it to yourself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Positive affirmations<\/a> help you to focus on the beneficial rather than on the negative aspects of any given situation. There is normally a mixture of both positive and negative in everything you do in life<\/a>. You decide, no one else, which aspect you choose to concentrate on. In this sense, affirmations can offer you hope in the challenging experiences you face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The most powerful affirmations are already in our heads<\/strong>. Unfortunately, for most of us, these are negative affirmations. These are often the result of habit and the human tendency to think negatively. Up to a point, negative thoughts and negative affirmations can be helpful and even the fear they produce can be useful. Generally, though, this fear is only useful in dangerous or life-threatening situations. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The power of the word can be seen in emotional and heartfelt writing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nowadays, most of the challenges we face are not life-threatening, and we do not want to be paralyzed by fear when having to give a speech, for example. Neither do we want fear to take control when we have to confront someone over a delicate issue, or if we need to give a presentation, or ask for a pay rise. At these times we need helpful and beneficial messages in our brains, not negative self-talk.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We call the negative voice inside our heads self talk<\/a>. Self-talk is our own voice and our own thoughts echoing back at us. This self-talk is powerful only because we believe it.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you suffer from low self esteem<\/a> or lack of confidence I\u2019d bet that you often hear negative statements in your mind. Positive affirmations can counter these, and repeating them will make burn them into your mind, which can make you stronger in stressful situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the research done on affirmations and the effects they may have on self esteem, there is some disagreement as to how effective they are. One study that did not find affirmations to be helpful in building self esteem is this one by Flynn and Bordieri (2020)<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the study, though, they admit to a limitation that could have caused their results to contradict most other research that indicates affirmations are useful to build self esteem<\/strong>. In Flynn and Bordieri’s study, participants were not allowed to choose their own affirmations. It has been shown, (see Wood et al. 2009<\/a>), before that affirmations are more successful when you choose them yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because of this contrary evidence and small disagreement between researchers, I decided to conduct my own research and in the next section, you can read what I found.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My Survey: How Helpful Are Affirmations For Building Self Esteem and Improving Your Life?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I asked subscribers to my newsletter the following questions and here are the results:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Have you ever used affirmations before?<\/strong><\/td><\/td><\/tr>
Yes <\/td>92.3%<\/td><\/tr>
No<\/td>7.7%<\/td><\/tr>
How helpful are affirmations?<\/strong><\/td><\/td><\/tr>
Very Helpful<\/td>37.5%<\/td><\/tr>
Helpful<\/td>20%<\/td><\/tr>
Unsure<\/td>27.5%<\/td><\/tr>
Not very helpful<\/td>12.5%<\/td><\/tr>
Not helpful at all<\/td>2.5%<\/td><\/tr>
Why did you use affirmations?<\/strong><\/td><\/td><\/tr>
To think more optimistically<\/td>52.5%<\/td><\/tr>
To build self-confidence<\/td>32.5%<\/td><\/tr>
To build self-esteem<\/td>15%<\/td><\/tr>
Which of these is the best way to change negative thinking and behaviour?<\/strong><\/td><\/td><\/tr>
Use affirmations<\/td>62.5%<\/td><\/tr>
Read a motivational book<\/td>32.5%<\/td><\/tr>
Self-Hypnosis <\/td>5%<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table>
Results of a survey I gave to my newsletter subscribers in early December 2020.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Conclusions from the results on the affirmations survey<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The results showed that most of the readers answering the survey had tried affirmations before and were quite happy that they appeared to give them the results they wanted. Approx. 58% said they were helpful, while only 15% said they weren’t. <\/strong>This is further evidence that affirmations do seem to help. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most people responding used affirmations to become more positive and to build confidence (approx. 53 and 33% respectively). Only 15% used them to build self-esteem.<\/strong> This was a surprise as my newsletter deals with the topic of building self-esteem. However, I believe that self-confidence is an important component of self esteem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thinking about this, I think that when someone thinks of using a tool like affirmations they want to change something specific about themselves or the way they behave hoping that this will have a real effect on his or her life. So, it’s natural that someone might want to be more confident and could understand the benefits of this. I think, also that this shows that people want to focus on a specific change like being more confident. Compare this to someone thinking I will use affirmations to increase my self esteem. What exactly would that mean? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Self-esteem is a concept and includes within it many components such as confidence, respect, etc. so I believe that anyone using affirmations will focus on specifics rather than a general concept like self-esteem. Any goal has to be measurable otherwise how will someone know when they have achieved it or made progress? We can more easily understand when we act confidently or feel more confident and can therefore judge when we have made progress. Perhaps this explains the answers I got in this poll.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I think the most interesting result, however, was that approximately twice as many respondents (63%) said that affirmations were the best method to encourage thinking more positively and change negative behavior, compared to reading a motivational book (33%). I imagine this would be similar to listening to audiobooks. Just 5% said they thought self-hypnosis was the best strategy, but perhaps this might be because not everybody will have tried self-hypnosis (my assumption)? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So this study does suggest that affirmations are helpful for making positive changes in your life, so let’s now move on to my best affirmations list.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My Top 30 Powerful Self Esteem Affirmations<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
  1. I deserve to be happy and successful<\/strong>.<\/li>
  2. I am unique and special.<\/strong><\/li>
  3. I appreciate who I am<\/strong>.<\/li>
  4. I believe in myself.<\/strong><\/li>
  5. I am free to choose to live as I wish and to give priority to my desires<\/strong><\/li>
  6. I can choose happiness whenever I wish no matter what my circumstances<\/strong><\/li>
  7. I am flexible and open to change in every aspect of my life<\/strong><\/li>
  8. I act with confidence having a general plan and accept plans are open to alteration<\/strong><\/li>
  9. It is enough to have done my best<\/strong><\/li>
  10. I deserve to be loved<\/strong><\/li>
  11. I love meeting strangers and approach them with boldness and enthusiasm.<\/strong><\/li>
  12. I am self-reliant, creative and persistent in whatever I do.<\/strong><\/li>
  13. I love change and easily adjust myself to new situations.<\/strong><\/li>
  14. I always see only the good in others.<\/strong><\/li>
  15. I attract only positive people.<\/strong><\/li>
  16. I enjoy healthy discussion and expressing my opinion<\/strong><\/li>
  17. My needs matter.<\/strong><\/li>
  18. I accept criticism as positive feedback<\/strong><\/li>
  19. I can control how I react to stressful situations<\/strong><\/li>
  20. I always encourage myself to learn and grow<\/strong><\/li>
  21. I accept my weaknesses and am working on improving<\/strong><\/li>
  22. Whenever I can, I help others<\/strong><\/li>
  23. I set my own standards and do not compare myself to others<\/strong><\/li>
  24. I can accept compliments and I also offer them<\/strong><\/li>
  25. I spend as much of my time with positive people as possible<\/strong><\/li>
  26. I am a good person.<\/strong><\/li>
  27. I focus on the positive, even when I know there are negatives<\/strong><\/li>
  28. I face my fears with positive determination<\/strong><\/li>
  29. I always question my negative thoughts rather than just accepting them<\/strong><\/li>
  30. I am doing my best and that is more than enough.<\/strong><\/li><\/ol>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n

    How Do You Use Affirmations to Boost Self Esteem?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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    Now you have my list of top 30 self esteem affirmations, I want to advise you on how to use them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Affirm means to state, or say out loud as if you mean it and fully accept the statement. If you find that any affirmation does not make sense for you, or that you absolutely do not agree with it, then don\u2019t use it. Choose a better affirmation which you can accept.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    When repeating affirmations, please do not speak them silently but out loud. This is very important! You need to hear the affirmation in the air. Repeat them at least three times clearly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Say them in a convincing and confident tone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Here is a great video I recommend that you watch:<\/p>\n\n\n\n