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Your Sneak Peak at "Self Esteem Secrets - Steps to Success"

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Part of the First Chapter of my e-book:

Chapter One

What is Self Esteem Exactly?

Self-esteem covers many aspects but basically it is your sense of self worth.  How valuable you think you are as a person.  If you want to discover what your level of self-esteem is there are many tests you can take and I have one on my website at that this page:



However, you can ask yourself a simple question and the answer to this will tell you what your present level of self-esteem is…


“How much do I value myself?”


If you think about this question carefully, your answers will tell you a lot.  You should spend a bit of time thinking about this and taking a few notes would be very helpful before you start to read this e-book.


You can’t touch it, but it affects how you feel…

You can’t see it, but it’s there when you look at yourself in the mirror…

You can’t hear it, but it’s there as a voice inside you…

This is your self esteem!


The opinion and values you hold are influenced by physical appearance, performance of various tasks, parents, religion, leaders, peers and siblings.


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ESTEEM  means


 • Value

• worth

• confidence

• respect

• honour

• hold one in high regard

So self-esteem is your awareness of all these about yourself.  Let’s take a few minutes to look at all these important points above one by one.



Everybody has an internal picture of their own value within society.  To have a healthy level of self-esteem you need to have a good self opinion of yourself in terms of the value that you have in your family.  This is so important.  Much of your self esteem was formed in the first place in the family when you were a child and as you grew up your level of self-esteem depended on the role that you held in your family.  Whether you are a father, mother son or daughter you need to know that you are performing your role well and to the best of your ability and that you are appreciated for it.


Your relationships within the family are very important in forming your own opinions about your value to the other members of the family.  The respect that you receive from your partner or your children also comes into this.


Men and women have a lot of different stresses and expectations within the family and so a man, for example, who has lost his job and is unable to provide for his family can suffer a drastic fall in his self esteem because he believes that he is not performing his duty appropriately.  Women, on the other hand, have different roles to play but nonetheless if they are taken advantage of, (as is often the case with women), low self esteem results.  Women usually have the role of running the family in the sense of looking after the children and preparing meals etc. (this is a very stereotyped view of course but it is still nonetheless the norm).


Women sometimes have so many demands placed on them, (especially nowadays when women are also working and developing careers).  This often means that they have to make choices and the problem with choices is that if you are forced to make them against your desires you can suffer low self esteem.


The problem in families is that there are so many conflicting roles and responsibilities that not everybody can always take care of their own needs.  This often leads to situations where people feel neglected or they feel that their needs are not being respected.  This is especially the case with adolescents and young children who have little tolerance for parent’s other responsibilities and duties.


As children we need to feel that we are valued. Whether we feel valued or not as children, depends on the messages that we get from our parents.  Children feel valued when her parents give them positive messages and they feel bad when they receive negative messages.  Parents these days have many responsibilities and with the fast pace of life in the modern world parents often do not give enough time to their children and worse,  when they return home from work tired and stressed it is very easy for them to get angry and give their children negative messages.  If this is repeated often the child grows up to be a child who suffers from low self-esteem and this can continue into adulthood.


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If you suffered from negative messages as you grew up as a child and let’s face it we all have to a certain extent, then you may still be suffering today and this may be why you do not value yourself as much as you should.


If you are a parent you should be aware of the affect that your negative messages have on your children.  How often have you heard yourself saying things like:

“You never listen”

“You’re so lazy”

“You never clean up your room”


And many other negative messages which repeated over a long period time really affect your child.  Think back to when you were a child and the messages you received and you may understand that perhaps you are still suffering from the after effects of all those messages.



Your self-worth is also important.  When you think of the job that you have and the things you do every day, do you believe that they are valuable to the world in general?


The thing about self worth is that the most important thing is what you think.  Your lack of self esteem is directly related to your own opinion of the value of what you do and who you are and this is totally within your control to change.  Of course it is difficult if you are in a position where you always receive negative messages from your partner, from members of your family or from colleagues at work.


What we’ll do in this book is try to alter the way you think about yourself and make you aware of how your thinking affects your ability to achieve your potential and reach your dreams.  If you are serious about reaching the goals that you have set for yourself and you want a life filled with happiness then you must start with improving your self esteem and building your confidence.


Self-Confidence is such an important aspect of self esteem because without Self-Confidence your self esteem will be extremely low.  Without self belief you’ll be defeated before you even get started. Chances are that you may not even start difficult things because you will talk yourself out of it.  As soon as anybody else turns round to you and gives you a negative message you will tend to believe them.  In addition, low self confidence will mean that you are easily put off by others comments and you will give up.


The reason why self-confidence and self-esteem are connected is because if you have no self-belief and you doubt yourself and your capabilities you will not challenge yourself and you will stick with things which are safe.  You will be holding yourself back and a voice inside you will nag you because you will know the truth.  The worst thing in life is to know that you are holding yourself back because you are paralyzed with fear of failure.  Lack of self confidence fills you with a fear of failure.


Fear of failure often means that you will fail because you will expect nothing else and we all know that through the law of attraction what you expect is what you get.


High self-esteem enhances self confidence that enables a person to interact, participate and relate positively with others.

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Respect is another factor which is highly important.  Self esteem not only depends on your own self respect but also depends on what you think others think of you.  If a woman thinks that her family does not respect her or that they do not listen to her then she will suffer from low self esteem.


It is the same for you.  You need to feel that you are respected by others and if you don’t you will find it difficult to respect yourself.




Self-esteem also depends on honor.  What do I mean by this?  I mean that if you believe that what you are doing is honorable you will have a high



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