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|Welcome to the newsletter.. and Happy New Year!|
It's 2005 and wherever you are I hope you enjoyed the celebrations. Already three weeks on but I would like to wish you a happy self esteem - filled year ahead. What have I got for you this month? A new article which I have written about the role that self esteem plays in a healthy relationship. Also, I have found some great quotes and other inspirational items which should hopefully point you in the right direction.
It's been a good year for my website and changes I want to make are on the way if only I can find the time. Please visit again and enjoy this newsletter,
Let's also pray that 2005 will be a more peaceful and less troubled year in the world than last!
Karl Perera www.more-selfesteem.com
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|This month's article: Relationships and Self Esteem by Karl Perera|
I started thinking about the subject for this month's newsletter article a few weeks ago. After receiving one or two emails form visitors to More Self Esteem about failing relationships and in particular how one person in a marriage can be totally overlooked by the other resulting in low self esteem and a poor marriage. In addition to this my experiences lately in my own situation have motivated me to write on this topic.
An Example of the problem
Marriage. Two people who are living together but sometimes one person feels that their wishes and aspirations are neglected by their partner and worse. Some women are so little respected by their husbands that they are reduced to servitude and a life of misery. These poor wives are not valued as individuals with their own values and desires and are desperate as a result. Sometimes it is so bad that even the children end up following the father's example and lose all respect for the woman of the house. Because of the traditional roles of men and women it is more commonly a problem for women but some men also suffer. A man who feels that he is neglected or dominated by his wife's control of his choices in life is indeed in a sorry position - I can sympathize with that.
It is not only in marriage of course that relationships between people suffer because one side denies the rights of the other to be their own person and reach their potential. Friends, brothers and sisters, family members all need the love and support of each other.
A good relationship is one where both partners respect each other's opinions, values and rights to live the way they want to. A healthy relationship can only be built on love (in all its forms) and love means to accept the other person as they are, to sacrifice and be willing to compromise at every stage, sharing is involved and in every kind of relationship you need to give but you also have the right to take.
What to do if you are in a one-sided relationship
A relationship without balance and fairness without both sides giving and taking equally is one that is not based on love or respect and is in danger of destroying itself. What's your relationship like? How do you treat your friend or partner and how does he/ she treat you, honestly?
If you are the one being disadvantaged in a relationship here are a few suggestions what to do:
I hope that some of these ideas can help you find the motivation to regain the independence and sense of self value you will have lost if you suffer in such a relationship. One final thing, do not wait - the sooner you break free the easier it will be and the more self respect you will have intact.
I wish you luck and hope that your relationships will grow in trust, mutual respect and affection, be strong!
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