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No One is Perfect: Body Image and Shame
Shame is something that many people experience, if you suffer from shame you are not alone. This is the first and most important thing to realize.
Some of the most important factors that help cause shame for women are:
Can you see how most of the above factors can cause shame if self esteem is low. When this is the case a woman will not be able to see reality as it is and she will focus on the negative. In terms of how you feel, it is most important to work on how you see yourself in a role or in a particular situation. You may be a wonderful mother but if you believe you are not then you can feel shame. This is the same for any of the above factors and body image is no different. The secret to feeling less shame is to build your self esteem and change the way you view yourself and your body.
Everyone is unique and you have different triggers for shame. Whatever it is that makes you feel shame about your body deal with it don't ignore it?
Where does your body image come from?
If you are a woman you may feel pressured to look beautiful. This pressure comes from the media. There are many many products being sold to women on the basis that they will make you look more beautiful. Marketing helps women to feel that they need to look as good as they can. Society also seems to suggest that a woman will only be successful if she looks attractive. This is a lot of pressure.
What is it that you don't like about your appearance and more importantly why?
The shame you feel may be totally unjustified. Maybe your own self image is fooling you. How do you know how others really see you?
A good example of how appearance and body image affect women is pregnancy. It is very natural and every pregnant woman faces similar changes in terms of body changes. Rather than hate what happens to you, why not try to accept it is natural and be kind to yourself for a change? Being careful to look after yourself helps and when you have had your baby then you can think about getting back to how you looked before.
Maybe the shame you feel comes from your parent's influence. Maybe they commented negatively about you and you have always believed what they said. Just because someone comments about your appearance negatively that doesn't mean what they said was true or that everyone thinks the same. Unfortunately as we grow up our parent's words can have a very long lasting effect. Think about this seriously and ask yourself if you believe this is a factor for you.
What to do to make yourself feel better
Body shame is something you can do something about. Your choices are to either to change how you think about yourself, learn to accept yourself as you are or do something to improve your weak points. The first two require you to work on your self esteem, the third involves an action plan. Let's look at these in turn:
You don't have to stay locked in your prison of shame. You have the keys to feeling good about your body. Don't let others tell you how you should look. Work out for yourself how you can look your best and most natural. the compliments and attention you'll get will amaze you!
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